Are you happy with yourself and with your life? I would lay odds that there are things that you would want to alter in both your life and you, yourself – I’ve rarely met anybody who is unconditionally happy. People frequently think that if they improve themselves, lose weight, buy a new car, go on a great holiday that, then, they will be happy. That kind of happiness, however, is superficial and passing. Real happiness must be lasting and not dependant on having this or doing that.
The one place where you will find happiness is within. Sadly, that is a foreign country to the vast majority of people[spin] because the normal person’s ‘within’ is [spin]hidden from them by what psychologists call ‘The Sentry’, a defence mechanism that we’ve all got which prevents others getting into our subconscious minds to brainwash us. The big problem is that this ‘Sentry’ keeps us out as well! And with good reason – or, at least, it would appear like a good idea until you venture a closer look at how we operate – our beliefs about how the world operates and ourselves are stored in our subconscious. You wouldn’t want to go messing with that stuff, would you? Or would you? Because most of us believe that we’re inadequate at least in some way, most of us are simply not 100% happy with who we are. That’s because our beliefs aren’t based on fact but on a build-up of what we call the conditioning or programming that we were subject to during what you might call your formative years. This programming or conditioning is the source of both your unease with yourself and, just as importantly, everything that you believe to be wrong in your life.
Our reality is created by our beliefs – it is our own personal beliefs that automatically dictate our behaviour, our actions, our reactions and our interactions with everyone else. It is through this process that we, ourselves, create our take on reality. What you’re thinking about, at the deepest subconscious level, literally creates your life. And it’s not real, it’s made up from what others did to us or for us during those formative years. So of course you want to go messing with your beliefs, because normal beliefs hold normal people back.
You’ve got to go beyond your beliefs. You’ve got to get to the inner real you, to find true happiness – that is where you will unearth a you that is unstained by the crap of normal conditioning, unspoilt by the deeply held beliefs that screw up our so-called normal lives – silly beliefs that keep us in our place – like we should know our place, like you have to work hard to be a success, like pleasure/pain principle, that all laughing comes to crying – fill in your own list.
Forget that nonsense. Indeed, forget about who you believed you were and discover who you really are – and the wonderful life that you can really have. Your mind’s obsessed with the normal crap – stop it. I teach my clients various forms of ‘mental calming measures’ – meditation if you will – you need to calm down, wake up and see the light. Only then you will find effortless happiness.
